Wednesday, October 1, 2025

Memento is an extreme but...

This philosopher suggests recording everything, primarily to assist with our faulty memory. I hate this idea even though my memory issues drive me nuts. Honestly it can be better for us to create our senses of self based on our memories rather than objective facts, because thinking of ourselves as behaving the way we wish we did rather than how we actually did may help us become that person instead of wallowing in shame. Some things we forget for a reason; they're unimportant or traumatic, and revisiting them helps nobody. Most healthy relationships would likely not be improved by re-listening to disagreements. And in the same way many people curate their social media images, some would start living for the recording instead of for themselves, and that would be a tragedy.

I used a five-year diary for a while, with one page for the same date of each year. I ended up throwing it out partway through the second year... reviewing my notes on what had happened the previous year was just too depressing. Not every year is that bad, but plenty are, and I enjoy letting them go as much as possible. (I also threw away all my writing from my teen years, and never regretted it.)

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